Anna Nicole

Opinion

Anna Nicole Smith was a truly beautiful woman on the outside. Who knows what she was like on the inside? It is said that she loved her son. I believe that. It is also said she loved her daughter. I believe that as well. Did anyone we have seen on the news who was involved in her life really care about what was on the inside? She ran with a crowd that lived like I used to live. I lived for fun and the next high. I can only speculate that that is how she lived.
Now, in making the above comment I have to say something. I have heard people say they do not care about Anna Nicole. I think that is just plain cold. I have no sympathy but I do have empathy. Anyone who enjoyed her pictures, her magnetic personality, her ability to stay in the limelight, and her ability to attract to herself the attention and money she did , I would think, would have empathy for her as well.
She is a tragedy. She lived a life of out of control drama. She sought riches and comfort. In her own words she lived from one train wreck to another. She prostituted her body to get what she wanted. This is evidenced by the fact that three different men are all claiming to be the father of her daughter. Three men, long after the birth of the child, are claiming to have had sex with Anna around the time her baby was conceived. Two of those men said nothing about paternity until Anna died and her fortune, which she won in a lawsuit, would be left to her little girl. What kind of legacy is that to leave the world.
At least I will die with my dignity an unknown to most of the world. Those who say they have no sympathy or empathy, no sadness at her passing are judgmental and snobby. Some are jealous that she could attract so much to herself. Some are angry because they work hard in their lives and value nothing from what they have gained or the lessons they have learned about life.
If only she could have learned what really mattered in life. If only she could have found what really makes a person happy. If only she could have found those things which build self esteem rather than egocentrism. If only, if only.
I guess some Hollywood types can deal with fame better than others. She, Anna Nicole, felt worthless unless she was the queen of the tabloids but at the same time she had trouble dealing with the stress of trying to stay in the public eye. I think that is why she used so many drugs. I could not believe there were so many drugs found on that list of medications sent to her by a psychiatrist. I think the psychiatrist should be prosecuted for wrongful death.
I do have a comment about the people she hung around with. I watched a roast of Pam Anderson at which Anna Nicole was present. I thought it was the raunchiest thing I had ever seen. The participants did nothing but tear down any decency in the woman that might have been there by glorifying her promiscuous sexual behavior. Just think how many people try to emulate that kind of drama in their lives.
Where is the self esteem building? Where is loving and honoring one's self? These people say we may look like buffoons but we are the one's wearing the fancy clothes, living in the big houses, and driving the expensive cars. Who cares about all that if one has to live their life so high on drugs he/she is not aware of what is going on around them half the time.
The first step in building self esteem is taking care of yourself. Neither of these women do/did a good job of that. They keep/kept themselves physically attractive but what about the inside.
I wonder if they care/cared about anything but themselves and their popularity. I have no doubt Anna Nicole was a sweet woman when she wanted to be. I have no doubt Pam Anderson is sweet when she wants something. However, I have known women like them. All they are concerned about is what they can get out of someone else. Once they have what they want they discard the relationship because they get bored and have to move on to something else. Nothing makes them happy.
I am not judging. I am asking questions and speaking from experience. I know they are/were people like anyone else. I know what drives people-the seeking of pleasure, and the pursuits of what the ego tells us we want. I guess I just wish that we could find the happiness we seek in things that can last a lifetime, and into other lifetimes.
I really want people to be happy with what they receive. The cosmic has so much to give, and will give what is worked for freely.
Ego correction costs in pain that is replaced by self esteem in the long run if one makes the correct choices; the choices that lead to responsibility for one's self and inner happiness.
The contemplative life is not easy in the beginning. It takes practice. The other way wears out he body and the mind and many times neither are recoverable. The damage we do to ourselves is irreversible. I have lived both ways, and I prefer introspection and seeking those intangible things that can last from lifetime to lifetime.

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