Over the last couple of weeks I've been listening to people express disappointment concerning others who don't live up to their expectations. I've been thinking about this a lot, trying to figure out why people expect certain things in other people. To me they're simply setting themselves up to be disappointed.

Sometimes I don't even live up to my own expectations'¦therefore it goes to show that it is impossible to have expectations of others, without inadvertently knowing a situation can go any which way. People are complex beings whose actions largely depend on many variables such as social, emotional, mental, financial and sexual to name a few.

I believe in free will, I don't expect anything from anyone, because those expectations will be no doubt clouded by my own code of what is right, wrong, what should or should no be. A code that the other person may or may not have been privy too, since these codes largely lie within our subconscious and have been ingrained within us. But everyone can't live their life based on our code of 'what is expected'. That's unfair.

I have a friend who drinks excessively, when I go out with her I don't expect her to drive me home, regardless of how much I may have drank. I only expect myself to be sober enough to get myself home safely.

When I love someone, I love that person for who they are, not what they can do for me. I neither try to change or make that person into someone else. I don't expect them to be there for me if they don't want to at a particular point of time or to go out of their way for me. I am quite capable of taking care of all my needs, emotionally and otherwise. I don't need re-assurance from anyone. But that's how I was brought up to be totally independent'¦hey that's a lone wolf for yuh.

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